Different Phases in a Relationship

Have been busy with my work and really no time to get down to blogging. Besides that, I have been giving relationship advice to others in a local forum for those gals in need. It is not that I am a good in love and relationship, if I am good, why am I still single. Hahaha... Well, staying single makes me understand and see things from another perspective. I am very fortunate enough to have a relationship once before, a long one that is. Have been through happy times and sad times. Now, looking at things from a neutral standpoint, I am able to give advice to those in need because I can see more clearly than before.

Anyway, that is besides the point, there is a short article which I share out in that forum and I like to share with my readers on my blog.

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This is a guy's POV of relationship.

In a relationship, the initial phase is known as the honeymoon period. During this period of time, the guy loves the gal more (usually) and will take the initiative to SMS or call the gal first or reply to her SMS promptly. Everything is so sweet and nice.

The next phase is the plateau phase, a very dangerous phase. All the excitment died down, everything falls into a routine. The guy will want to have more time for his own life, start to hang out more with friends, doing his own activities and slow in giving attention to the gal. He will start to call and SMS the gal less. If the guy don't do a reflection and start taking things for granted, then the outcome is disaster. But, if the couples take some time to talk it out, resolve the issue and stop taking each other for grant, renew the relationship and direction, then the relationship have grown to the next stage. It is not only the effort of the guy but also the gal. Make it a balance effort from both parties then it can work out.

If complacent instead of compromise take over the relationship, then it is the last phase. The wearout phase. The guy was so used to be driven in the relationship and the gal on the other hand is the one driving the relationship. All patience are lose, and the guy take the gal's complaint as a nag and will not fall hostage to a gal's tear. He will start avoiding problem, like to leave them as they were and not solve them. Slowly and surely, the distance drift. The outcome is predictable.

Just sharing a view from what I observe, this usually occurs for younger guys because to them, relationship is like going to an international buffet. They don't know what they want in life. When they ordered something, they tasted a bit and see what other have, they wished that they had ordered that. Man/woman are generally greedy. It is just human nature.