Falling in Love and Getting into a Relationship

Nope, not talking about me definitely. Just to share out my thoughts on the topic of Love and Relationship again. It has been a while since I last wrote anything on it. Wanted to write this article for quite some time but just never take the time to really sit down and think about it.

To some, Falling in Love and Getting into a Relationship means the same thing, it means finding that special someone and spending your life with that person you loved. However, if you really think about it, there is a difference between these two expressions.

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When people fall in love, it usually happened quite unexpectedly, that is why the expression fall was used. People fall head over heels for that special someone, realize how the word “fall” was used in this expression too.

A fall is never expected nor planned (no one plans to fall), that is why when we saw someone out of the blue or when we happened to notice someone that catches our attention and the next moment before we know it, we had a crush on or liking for that person, we used the expression “Fall in Love”. It is more like infatuation and usually happened when we were much younger where we don’t really consider much.

Some time, people fall in love quickly but also fall out of love quickly too. It is because like I mentioned, it was never planned or expected. When that feeling of infatuation dead down, when all the excitement and passion is gone, when each party starts to see each other as who they are, expectation starts to set in, then they realize that they were not meant for each other. But some time, one party might had put in a lot of effort to make things to work out but some how, it was just not meant to last. (I will share more about this next time because I remember a very meaningful story about this.)

As we grow and matured, our thinking changes, so do our perspectives on love and relationship. Instead of falling in love or falling head over heel at first sight (love at first sight), people start to look before committing into a relationship. Usually, when someone caught our eye, we will want to get to know the person more in-depth to know if we are compatible. After getting to know each other better as mutual friend, we may decide if that person is someone whom we want to spend our lifetime with and grow old together. Having that in mind, we will have to plan and take some factors into consideration before asking each other to commit to a relationship. People at this stage get into a relationship when they are more ready in terms of thinking and commitment.

The level of thinking is more mature because people get into relationship when they are more ready and when they find that someone that they can connect to. They look long term and plan together so as to make the relationship last.

Does this always means that people who fall in love will always fall out of love also? Well, this is not always the case as there are people who fall in love and had a long lasting relationship. This is because they mature with the relationship and let the love grows over time. Their level of understanding and commitment for each other increase as both are willing to put in the effort and work things out. And as they grow older, they start to look more into long term planning and starting a family. After falling in love, both parties get each other ready for long term commitment, that is the way to a long lasting relationship. It is not only about compromise, commitment, communication or compatibility. It is putting each other best interests in the heart and looking long term because Love is never about individual thoughts who think about ourselves, love is free and never selfish. Love is about each other.

So think about it, do you want to fall into love or get into a relationship?