好的肩膀, 好的眼光

It has been long since I last updated my blog. Not that I abandoned it, but just that... It is quite rundown and seldom anyone come to this deserted blog anymore. Anyway, happened to see a "SHOUT" on Clara's Facebook which says "女人不可以嫁错人， 害了自己也害了孩子。" (meaning : Women should not marry the wrong guy, it is bad for herself and her children.

After seeing that comment, I was thinking of replying to her using my favourite quote from 曹启泰 which I heard years back when I happened to be at his book launch. (It was really years back where the location of the now Vivocity is still an exhibition area. It was that old...)

Anyway, I thought that I have it on my blog and so I just scan through all the topics on Love and Relationship but I don't seems to be able to find it. Maybe I never wrote about it or it is somehow embedded in one of those stories. So instead of digging through all my old entries, I feel that I might as well write on this topic just in case I really never enter this before on my blog. I titled this entry, "好的肩膀, 好的眼光" which is what the topic is about. So here goes...

男人要有好的肩膀, 这样才能够担负家庭的重任. 女人要有好的眼光, 这样才能够找到一个可靠的肩膀.

The words summarizes as "A man should have a good shoulder for he needs to shoulder the responsibilities and the hardship of running and support a family. A woman should have a good eyesight to be able to spot such a good shoulder for her to rely on."

I think that there should be also an additional phase to it.

男人可靠的肩膀不可以太软也不可以太硬, 该软的时候软, 该硬的时候硬. 硬是为了承担家庭的重任, 软是为了给女人累或伤心时可以依靠而不会弄疼她,

A (man's) good shoulder should not be too soft or hard. When it is suppose to be hard, it should be hard. When it suppose to be soft, it should be soft. It needs to be hard so that he can shoulder the tremendous tasks of supporting for a family, it needs to be soft so that when the woman is tired and sad, she can rely on his shoulder to rest on yet still feel comforting.