得与失 (Having and Lost)

Was on my way back when I reflected on the previous topic which I type about namely "Courage to Love". Reflecting a little deeper gives me the inspiration to talk about this topic "Having and Lost" or "Gain and Lost" if you wish to put it that way. From a monetary standpoint, "Gain and Lost" will sounds better, from a relationship and love standpoint, I will prefer to use "Having and Lost". But no point for me to write so much which term to use as I will be using Chinese to express my thoughts, so this is the topic I am going to touch on, titled "得与失".

Before I start, just a quote which I learnt from "The Leap Years" which is also related to this topic. "It is better to have loved and lost than never to have lost at all. - Samuel Butler"

得与失

上文所提到，面对爱是需要勇气的。
真正面对爱就会面对得与失的问题。
有失必有得。
失去了一段恋情，如果最终还是得回那一段恋情，或得到一段新的恋情，必然是好事。
但是，从多一个角度来看，有得也必有失。人们总是怕得到了一段美好的恋情，而因一时的误会或过错，失去这一份爱。
就是这种想法，人们才会不敢去面对爱。因为人们怕面对失败，心痛与寂寞。
得与失真的那么重要吗?
失去了，终究真的会得到吗?
得到了，终究真的会失去吗?
别因为在得与失的问题上看得太过重而使得你错过爱。
當一份美好的恋情出现在你的面前时，最重要的是勇敢地去爱与付出。
别因为怕会失去而无法用心地去爱别人或爱自己，使得你无法体会到得到爱的美。
也别因为得到了爰而忘了以前你所失去的痛苦。重要的是，了解为什么会失去而别再犯同样的错。
希望大家能够了解我所想表达的。祝大家快乐也希望大家能勇敢地去爱。